So, I was upset the other day for a variety of reasons, and Seth was trying to comfort me. I wasn't very receptive at the time, but he took it in stride, and later in the day, sent me this text:
"I poorly stated it earlier but my attempt was to say the only things that matter for you are the things matter to you. Other people can't change what you care about only discourage or endorse them. Things you don't care about will still affect you but the hindrance is reduced.
So don't care about things that only hold you back. You don't need to emotionally attach to everything to be concerned. and having too many emotional attachments will exhaust your self care. Contrast having too little will exhaust your support. People can be self supporting and still need help and people can ask for help without being codependent too.
You have the most impact on your own life even though you can't control other people or reality. You can control your how you will act and how you perceive events. Not everyone has full control of their every action but recognizing when you act impulsively and whether than impulse is proactive or reactive and helpful will make things easier.
Also the choice to not act when you know you're not in a stable position to do so is also a good thing. Risk and reckless are different too. Mom, your choices aren't fate nor the consequences punishment even if they aren't always in your best interest. What happens isn't your fault but how you respond is your responsibility, making poor choices will only harm yourself. And making good choices is exhausting which is why I recommend making choices when you have time to analyze them rather than react."
Reason #123847593 why I love my son so much. He is incredibly wise.
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